feat!: Make NodePort pinning configurable

[sbernauer]

Description

Part of stackabletech/issues#770
Needs stackabletech/operator-rs#1105

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[NickLarsenNZ]

LGTM, read the last few commits since my last review comments.

[sbernauer]

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        --- PASS: kuttl/harness/custom-lbclass_openshift-false_loadbalancer-allocatenodeports-true (7.37s)
        --- PASS: kuttl/harness/smoke-nodeport_openshift-false_addressType-Hostname (242.51s)
        --- PASS: kuttl/harness/smoke-nodeport_openshift-false_addressType-IP (235.53s)
        --- PASS: kuttl/harness/custom-lbclass_openshift-false_loadbalancer-allocatenodeports-false (7.35s)
        --- PASS: kuttl/harness/smoke-nodeport_openshift-false_addressType-HostnameConservative (25.50s)
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