Reduce excessive off-heap memor caused by occasional large key

[yeyinglang]

Closes #3237

1. When the readBuffer is insufficient, a temporary large buffer will be created.
2. Once the current command processing is completed, the temporary large buffer will be released, and the readBuffer will be restored.
3. Even in the case of an exception, if the large object is not released during this processing, it will still be released during the next request.

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BenchMark Setup

JMH version: 1.21
VM version: JDK 1.8.0_442, OpenJDK 64-Bit Server VM, 25.442-b06
OS: Mac OS Sequoia 15.1
Arch: Apple M3 Pro
VM invoker: /Library/Java/JavaVirtualMachines/temurin-8.jdk/Contents/Home/jre/bin/java
Warmup: 5 iterations, 10 s each
Measurement: 5 iterations, 10 s each
Timeout: 2 s per iteration,
Threads: 1 thread, will synchronize iterations
Benchmark mode: Average time, time/op

Before

Benchmark Mode Cnt Score Error Units
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndRead avgt 5 187.513 ± 18.123 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch1 avgt 5 139.423 ± 3.800 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch10 avgt 5 1229.034 ± 126.325 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch100 avgt 5 14325.850 ± 568.049 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch1000 avgt 5 134176.816 ± 4066.024 ns/op

After

Benchmark Mode Cnt Score Error Units
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndRead avgt 5 179.508 ± 27.306 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch1 avgt 5 142.241 ± 17.666 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch10 avgt 5 1359.862 ± 59.279 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch100 avgt 5 13541.736 ± 721.837 ns/op
CommandHandlerBenchmark.measureNettyWriteAndReadBatch1000 avgt 5 138272.823 ± 8509.574 ns/op