router: add RefreshBackend method for Router interface

[better0332]

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #xxx

Problem Summary:
Sometimes gateway wants to refresh backends immediately, because the owner of backends has changed and avoid others logs into the backend.

What is changed and how it works:

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Notable changes

• Has configuration change
• Has HTTP API interfaces change
• Has tiproxyctl change
• Other user behavior changes

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