*: support memTracker.detach for HashJoin, Apply and IndexLookUp in Close func (#54095)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #54095

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #54005

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
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• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Fixed the issue of abnormally high memory usage caused by memTracker not being detached in HashJoin and IndexLookUp operators when used as the inner side of the Apply operator.

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