*: memory is not allocated first if the user does not use some information from the table. (#50062)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #50062

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #50077

Problem Summary:
If a large number of tables (such as the 540k table, 2850k partitions in the scenario shown in issue) are used, the OOM situation may occur.

What changed and how does it work?

Reduce memory allocation

• Do not create columns(PublicColumns, VisibleColumns, WritableColumns, FullHiddenColsAndVisibleColumns) for tables that are not used by users.
• Do preallocate for EncodeInt in EncodeTableIndexPrefix.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
  Prior to this PR, OOM appeared every 20-30 minutes. After this PR memory is relatively stable without OOM (test 4h+).
  See the memory usage chart, memory reduction of about 2G.

Before this PR：

After this PR：

• No need to test

  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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[zimulala]

/retest-required

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Timeline:

• 2024-02-22 08:57:38.855183238 +0000 UTC m=+520347.602806349: ☑️ agreed by Defined2014.
• 2024-02-22 08:58:03.529582441 +0000 UTC m=+520372.277205551: ☑️ agreed by tangenta.

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