drainer: support load table infos to save memory and add gc safepoint update (#1233)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #1233

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: ref #1137

What is changed and how it works?

1. support load table infos from tidb
2. add gc safepoint ttl update to avoid table info is gced

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Code changes

• Has exported function/method change
• Has exported variable/fields change
• Has interface methods change
• Has persistent data change

Side effects

• Possible performance regression
• Increased code complexity
• Breaking backward compatibility

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch
• Need to update the documentation
• Need to update the tidb-ansible repository
• Need to be included in the release note

Release note

None

[lichunzhu]

/approve

[lichunzhu]

/lgtm

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Timeline:

• 2023-07-03 08:32:55.561614142 +0000 UTC m=+20007.495247557: ☑️ agreed by lichunzhu.
• 2023-07-06 06:20:19.286291219 +0000 UTC m=+2498.167767152: ☑️ agreed by lance6716.