drainer: support load table infos to save memory and add gc safepoint update (#1233)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #1233

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: ref #1137

What is changed and how it works?

1. support load table infos from tidb
2. add gc safepoint ttl update to avoid table info is gced

Check List

Tests

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• Integration test
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Code changes

• Has exported function/method change
• Has exported variable/fields change
• Has interface methods change
• Has persistent data change

Side effects

• Possible performance regression
• Increased code complexity
• Breaking backward compatibility

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch
• Need to update the documentation
• Need to update the tidb-ansible repository
• Need to be included in the release note

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[lichunzhu]

/merge

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This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: 463e7bd

[lichunzhu]

/run-integration-tests