Node API core consolidation

[legendecas]

People are complaining that the node-api core implementation is deviating from node.js core conventions and has a lot of workarounds and non-conventional mechanisms, especially around the finalizers. It makes it harder to maintain the node-api code base.

I'm working with the @nodejs/node-api team on the document https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bqm05PWQni65FVdSKiaVAkqCAOD9HIfCqG_Y4CAYTbo/edit?usp=sharing to list the problems we are facing and try to figure out what approaches we can apply.

@addaleax thanks for bringing the topic up at #36510 (comment).

Opening this issue to track the progress.

[deepakrkris]

I am interested in working on this

[legendecas]

@deepakrkris it will be great if you can help out on this! As we discussed in the last node-api team meeting, please free feel to drop a comment on the document if you have any questions.

[mhdawson]

@legendecas maybe we should go through this in the next node-api meeting to see what's been completed and what is still needed on this one.