NODE_OPTIONS do not work properly anymore

[BridgeAR]

Seems like #22392 broke NODE_OPTIONS parsing.

Example:

> NODE_OPTIONS='-r logger.js --trace-events-enabled --trace-event-categories node.async_hooks' ./node

./node: --trace-events-enabled --trace-even is not allowed in NODE_OPTIONS

> NODE_OPTIONS='--trace-events-enabled --trace-event-categories node.async_hooks' ./node

./node: --trace-event-categories node.async_hooks is not allowed in NODE_OPTIONS

cc @addaleax

[mscdex]

We don't have tests for this?

[addaleax]

@BridgeAR Fix + tests in #22529, would be cool if you could take a look? :)