fix(devtools-connect): skip driver ping during connect COMPASS-9455

[nbbeeken]

Description

mongodb-js/compass#7083

Set the option that makes the driver not run ping on connect.

This removes some errors that could happen:

• Ping tests for authentication because it is a command that runs through the connection pool the connection created must be auth-ed
• The server selected is the primary unless a client-wide read preference was set. This blocks the ping from running until a primary is discovered

This improves some scenarios:

• No longer is a pool (likely the primary) pre populated with one connection when connect returns
• Connect returns sooner than RTT to any particular node since it does not wait on monitoring / server selection
  • Nor does connect wait for a MongoDB handshake RTT in addtion to the ping RTT

Open Questions

Does the error timing matter to downstream projects?

Any command can fail auth at anytime, and a primary may not be discoverable at boot but could be when you issue a command. Is "connect time" erroring important?

Checklist

• I have signed the Contributor License Agreement (https://www.mongodb.com/legal/contributor-agreement)
• New tests and/or benchmarks are included
• Documentation is changed or added

[coveralls]

coverage: 72.482%. remained the same
when pulling be63343 on COMPASS-9455
into 99fbdb9 on main.