DO NOT MERGE - WIP - NativeQueryCompiler performance improvements

[sfc-gh-jkew]

WIP for discussion which does two things:

• allows for fewer deep copies
• overrides default_to_pandas with a version which reduces copies
• comment out various metrics ( probably not a huge factor here )

What do these changes do?

• first commit message and PR title follow format outlined here

  NOTE: If you edit the PR title to match this format, you need to add another commit (even if it's empty) or amend your last commit for the CI job that checks the PR title to pick up the new PR title.

• passes flake8 modin/ asv_bench/benchmarks scripts/doc_checker.py
• passes black --check modin/ asv_bench/benchmarks scripts/doc_checker.py
• signed commit with git commit -s
• Resolves #?
• tests added and passing
• module layout described at docs/development/architecture.rst is up-to-date