Basically we dont event dipslay the kernel picker that would allow users to connect toa different server.
The problem is we're starting a whole new session unnecessarily when all we want is a list of kernels.

I.e. even when we're getting list of kernels, we're starting unnecessary kernels.

Took me 2 hours to figure out that my default kernel wouldn't start.
I'm using Jupyter & jupyter labs & don't run into this issue, but vscode wouldn't allow me to connect to a local remote at all.