Bump aioesphomeapi to 19.1.4

[bdraco]

needs https://github.com/esphome/aioesphomeapi/actions/runs/7014791763

Proposed change

• Rearranging and removal of duplicate code now that it was safer to do since we have 100% line coverage
• Gets rid of the confusing internal perform_handshake function since after previous refactoring all it did was wait on a future and did not actually do the handshake anymore. This allows the frame helper to be completely free of anything that awaits which should significantly reduce the chance we accidentally introduce races in the future.
• Connecting the frame helper and doing the handshake is just a tiny bit faster (might safe a nanosecond or two) but thats more of a side effect

changelog: esphome/aioesphomeapi@v19.1.3...v19.1.4

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[frenck]

Thanks, @bdraco 👍

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[bdraco]

Thanks!

Can probably delete another 40-50 lines in the library today and that should wrap up things for 2023.12.x