fwd relayAddresses and be a bit more conservative

[mafintosh]

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[mafintosh]

stats post this pr for 20 reconnects to a peer

{
  requests: { active: 0, total: 342 },
  commands: [
    { tx: 63, rx: 63 },
    { tx: 1, rx: 0 },
    { tx: 45, rx: 44 },
    { tx: 6, rx: 0 }
  ]
}

stats pre this pr for 20 reconnects to a peer

{
  requests: { active: 0, total: 2095 },
  commands: [
    { tx: 13, rx: 13 },
    { tx: 1, rx: 0 },
    { tx: 57, rx: 57 },
    { tx: 0, rx: 0 }
  ]
}

[HDegroote]

Looks good to me