network: add ext proc config check for processing mode and grpc services

[botengyao]

Throw in this PR, but I think a better way is to change the interface of createFilterFactoryFromProtoTyped to return absl:status to avoid throw for network filters.

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Caused by: #39284 was opened by botengyao.

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