DAOS-19616 dtx: fix race issues for DTX resync

[Nasf-Fan]

1. In theory, it is possible that when exclude some engine, related ULT maybe trying to abort a DTX because of some failure happened during local modification (but related modification has succeeded on remote targets). Related DTX_ABORT RPC has been sent out but not been received or processed by related remote targets. Under such case, the DTX leader is switched because of related engine is exlcuded. And then DTX resync is triggered by new DTX leader who may regard such DTX as committable since all alive targets claim 'PREPARED'. Then the new DTX leader will make different decision that conflict with old DTX leader did. That may cause related DTX to be aborted on some targets but committed on the others, as to data inconsistency among related redundancy group. The new logic forbids to abort DTX from old DTX leader to avoid such inconsistency.

2. During DTX resync, the DTX CHECK RPC should not be sent to the target that will be reintegrated (with PO_COMP_ST_UP). Because such target may have removed related DTX entries.

Steps for the author:

• Commit message follows the guidelines.
• Appropriate Features or Test-tag pragmas were used.
• Appropriate Functional Test Stages were run.
• At least two positive code reviews including at least one code owner from each category referenced in the PR.
• Testing is complete. If necessary, forced-landing label added and a reason added in a comment.

After all prior steps are complete:

• Gatekeeper requested (daos-gatekeeper added as a reviewer).

[github-actions]

Ticket title is 'FIO crc mismatch detected on 4x node IB config while running HSN cable pulls test'
Status is 'Awaiting backport'
Job should run at elevated priority (1)
https://daosio.atlassian.net/browse/DAOS-19616

[daosbuild3]

Test stage Functional Hardware Large MD on SSD completed with status FAILURE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net//job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-19240/1/execution/node/1808/log