[improvement](k8s)when the IP of be is different from the IP specified by the master, obey it

[zddr]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

Problem summary

Describe your changes.

When FE is deployed on a virtual machine and CN is deployed on k8s, FE needs to use a proxy IP to communicate with CN nodes, and BE cannot resolve the proxy IP from the local network card. We change the previous verification rules and obey the IP assigned by the master

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• Does it affect the original behavior
• Has unit tests been added
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• Does it need to update dependencies
• Is this PR support rollback (If NO, please explain WHY)

Further comments

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[github-actions]

clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! 👍"

[zddr]

run buildall

[hello-stephen]

TeamCity pipeline, clickbench performance test result:
the sum of best hot time: 34.13 seconds
stream load tsv: 444 seconds loaded 74807831229 Bytes, about 160 MB/s
stream load json: 21 seconds loaded 2358488459 Bytes, about 107 MB/s
stream load orc: 59 seconds loaded 1101869774 Bytes, about 17 MB/s
stream load parquet: 30 seconds loaded 861443392 Bytes, about 27 MB/s
insert into select: 82.8 seconds inserted 10000000 Rows, about 120K ops/s
https://doris-community-test-1308700295.cos.ap-hongkong.myqcloud.com/tmp/20230523062935_clickbench_pr_148757.html

[morningman]

LGTM

[github-actions]

PR approved by at least one committer and no changes requested.

[github-actions]

PR approved by anyone and no changes requested.