chore: dependency cleanup

[snowystinger]

Closes

With the bout of recent attacks, it's time to audit and make sure we're using the recommended package versions. We should also be shipping our starters with a lockfile so that installs are safe for others using those.

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[snowystinger]

Splitting up into smaller PRs to address groups of changes. hopefully easier to review that way