refactor: reduce infinite query renders and bundle size

[boschni]

This MR addresses the following things:

• Fixes bug where previously fetched pages were still remembered after setting new data with setQueryData.
• Prevent unnecessary renders while performing infinite queries.
• Reduce bundle size by around 10%.
• Also update canFetchMore when setting data with setQueryData.

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