[BugFix] fix nljoin with big array cause be oom (backport #55603)

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Why I'm doing:

be oom
Out of memory: Killed process 9053 (starrocks_be) total-vm:175313672kB, anon-rss:63211384kB, file-rss:0kB, shmem-rss:0kB, UID:1000 pgtables:197484kB oom_score_adj:0

be.WARNING:

W20250206 13:59:54.425003 140042637096512 mem_hook.cpp:103] large memory alloc, query_id:95024d6e-e44f-11ef-9a27-00163e15ae91 instance: 95024d6e-e44f-11ef-9a27-00163e15ae94 acquire:1846501376 bytes, stack:
    @          0x9474835  starrocks::get_stack_trace[abi:cxx11]()
    @          0x92dca75  report_large_memory_alloc(unsigned long)
    @          0x92d8add  malloc
    @          0x5d2eef3  starrocks::AllocatorFactory<starrocks::Allocator, starrocks::MemHookAllocator>::checked_alloc(unsigned long)
    @          0x5b6985c  starrocks::FixedLengthColumnBase<int>::append(starrocks::Column const&, unsigned long, unsigned long)
    @          0x5b4b006  starrocks::NullableColumn::append(starrocks::Column const&, unsigned long, unsigned long)
    @          0x5b8dbaf  starrocks::ArrayColumn::append(starrocks::Column const&, unsigned long, unsigned long)
    @          0x5b4b006  starrocks::NullableColumn::append(starrocks::Column const&, unsigned long, unsigned long)
    @          0x8170804  starrocks::pipeline::NLJoinProbeOperator::_permute_probe_row(std::shared_ptr<starrocks::Chunk> const&)
    @          0x8171c3e  starrocks::pipeline::NLJoinProbeOperator::_permute_chunk_for_other_join(unsigned long)
    @          0x8172998  starrocks::pipeline::NLJoinProbeOperator::_pull_chunk_for_other_join(unsigned long)
    @          0x8172df5  starrocks::pipeline::NLJoinProbeOperator::pull_chunk(starrocks::RuntimeState*)
    @          0x5a7dd19  starrocks::pipeline::PipelineDriver::process(starrocks::RuntimeState*, int)
    @          0x8fead53  starrocks::pipeline::GlobalDriverExecutor::_worker_thread()
    @          0x94b6be3  starrocks::ThreadPool::dispatch_thread()
    @          0x94ae229  starrocks::Thread::supervise_thread(void*)
    @     0x7f5ebabf1ac3  (/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libc.so.6+0x94ac2)
    @     0x7f5ebac83850  (/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/libc.so.6+0x12684f)

What I'm doing:

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr