charon and lighthouse_vc fixes

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This PR fixes a couple of errors encountered when trying to use the geth_teku_lighthouse example.

1 - lighthouse validator was failing to start with error: "lighthouse_vc-1 | error: unexpected value 'true' for '--builder-proposals' found; no more were expected"
Fix by modifying lighthouse/run.sh to check the value of the variable and add the --builder-proposals accordingly (without =true)

2 - charon was not receiving the BUILDER_API_ENABLED env variable properly. Fix by using the proper variable name (as per Lodestar example)

lighthouse validator also has a 'distributed' arg, which I also added because it looks to be required for use in a DV

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note that I am just using charon and lighthouse-vc, so there may be additional updates required for the geth, teku & mev services