Better connection monitoring

example:
```
select
  state,
  count(*) "Total count",
  count(*) filter (where now() - state_change <= '1 second') as "Fresh (<1 sec)",
  count(*) filter (where now() - state_change > '1 second') as "Old (1+ sec)"
from pg_stat_activity
group by cube(state);
```

\+ per host (`clent_addr`) 
\+ per app