Use advertised TLS host setting in metadata frame (backport #14344)

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The rabbitmq_stream.advertised_tls_host setting is not used in the metadata frame of the stream protocol, even if it is set. This commit makes sure the setting is used if set.

References rabbitmq/rabbitmq-stream-java-client#803

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #14344 done by Mergify.

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Changes to be committed:
	modified:   deps/rabbitmq_stream/src/rabbit_stream_reader.erl
	modified:   deps/rabbitmq_stream/test/rabbit_stream_SUITE.erl

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	both modified:   deps/rabbitmq_stream/src/rabbit_stream.erl
	deleted by us:   deps/rabbitmq_stream/src/rabbit_stream_utils.hrl

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