lib: use deferred queue for all internal ticks calls

[ronag]

Refs: #51267

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[Qard]

Might need to be semver-major as the timing change could be observable and therefore may be depended on by some users.

[mcollina]

I have a feeling this would be a significant negative impact on performance, but I would love to be proven wrong.

A couple of notes:

1. I would keep _deferTick private, and not attached to process
2. a CITGM run is necessary, but we would also need more modules in CITGM

[ronag]

I have a feeling this would be a significant negative impact on performance, but I would love to be proven wrong.

What's your reasoning? Is the existing benchmark suite sufficient to prove you wrong?

[mcollina]

There is a lot more code in one of hottest functions of core

[mcollina]

The existing benchmarks would do, but we should check most of yhe affected subsystems.

[ShogunPanda]

I second the request to make the deferTick method private initially.
Unless we figure out the real impact internally I would avoid also having to deal with user code for now.