http2: cleanup Http2Stream/Http2Session destroy

Backport-PR-URL: #18050
Backport-PR-URL: #20456
PR-URL: #17406
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Anatoli Papirovski <apapirovski@mac.com>

This is a significant cleanup and refactoring of the
cleanup/close/destroy logic for Http2Stream and Http2Session.
There are significant changes here in the timing and ordering
of cleanup logic, JS apis. and various related necessary edits.

Author: jasnell

doc/api/errors.md

@@ -638,6 +638,11 @@ Status code was outside the regular status code range (100-999).
 The `Trailer` header was set even though the transfer encoding does not support
 that.
 
+<a id="ERR_HTTP2_ALREADY_SHUTDOWN"></a>
+### ERR_HTTP2_ALREADY_SHUTDOWN
+
+Occurs with multiple attempts to shutdown an HTTP/2 session.
+
 <a id="ERR_HTTP2_CONNECT_AUTHORITY"></a>
 ### ERR_HTTP2_CONNECT_AUTHORITY
 
@@ -661,6 +666,12 @@ forbidden.
 
 A failure occurred sending an individual frame on the HTTP/2 session.
 
+<a id="ERR_HTTP2_GOAWAY_SESSION"></a>
+### ERR_HTTP2_GOAWAY_SESSION
+
+New HTTP/2 Streams may not be opened after the `Http2Session` has received a
+`GOAWAY` frame from the connected peer.
+
 <a id="ERR_HTTP2_HEADER_REQUIRED"></a>
 ### ERR_HTTP2_HEADER_REQUIRED
 
@@ -800,6 +811,11 @@ client.
 An attempt was made to use the `Http2Stream.prototype.responseWithFile()` API to
 send something other than a regular file.
 
+<a id="ERR_HTTP2_SESSION_ERROR"></a>
+### ERR_HTTP2_SESSION_ERROR
+
+The `Http2Session` closed with a non-zero error code.
+
 <a id="ERR_HTTP2_SOCKET_BOUND"></a>
 ### ERR_HTTP2_SOCKET_BOUND
 
@@ -817,10 +833,11 @@ Use of the `101` Informational status code is forbidden in HTTP/2.
 An invalid HTTP status code has been specified. Status codes must be an integer
 between `100` and `599` (inclusive).
 
-<a id="ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_CLOSED"></a>
-### ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_CLOSED
+<a id="ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_CANCEL"></a>
+### ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_CANCEL
 
-An action was performed on an HTTP/2 Stream that had already been closed.
+An `Http2Stream` was destroyed before any data was transmitted to the connected
+peer.
 
 <a id="ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_ERROR"></a>
 ### ERR_HTTP2_STREAM_ERROR