doc: update changelog maker commands (#1431)

doc/creating_a_release.md

@@ -34,14 +34,16 @@ to show the new version as the latest.
 the route folder of the repo launch the following command:
 
     ```bash
-    > changelog-maker
+    > changelog-maker --md --group --filter-release
     ```
 * Use the output generated by **changelog maker** to update the [CHANGELOG.md](https://github.com/nodejs/node-addon-api/blob/main/CHANGELOG.md)
 following the style used in publishing the previous release.
 
 * Add any new contributors to the "contributors" section in the package.json
 
-* Validate all tests pass by running `npm test` on the `main` branch.
+* Commit with a message containing _only_ an x.y.z semver designator. "x.y.z" (so that the commit can be filtered by changelog-maker)
+
+* Create a release proposal pull request.
 
 * Use **[CI](https://ci.nodejs.org/view/x%20-%20Abi%20stable%20module%20API/job/node-test-node-addon-api-new/)**
 to validate tests pass (note there are still some issues on SmartOS and