ecds: add support for bootstrap extensions

[mathetake]

just like #14696, #15895, #12893, it would be useful if we could configure bootstrap extensions dynamically - especially Wasm Service which runs in the main thread and does some async processing (e.g. metrics aggregations) in parallel to workers.

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