useSubscription: fix rules of React violations (#11863)

* Revert "Merge pull request #9707 from kazekyo/fix_usesubscription_in_strict_mode"

This reverts commit 4571e1a, reversing
changes made to 5be85a0.

* essentially rewrite useSubscription

* use `setResult` update method

* adjust tests

* change observable during render; lazy initialization of subscription

* no more need for stable options, performance optimization

* changeset

* adjust documentation

* review feedback

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Jerel Miller <jerelmiller@gmail.com>

* clarify comment

* update size-limits

* fix test

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Co-authored-by: Jerel Miller <jerelmiller@gmail.com>

Author: phryneas

.changeset/little-suits-return.md

@@ -0,0 +1,5 @@
+---
+"@apollo/client": minor
+---
+
+Reimplement `useSubscription` to fix rules of React violations.

.size-limits.json

@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
 {
-  "dist/apollo-client.min.cjs": 39604,
+  "dist/apollo-client.min.cjs": 39619,
   "import { ApolloClient, InMemoryCache, HttpLink } from \"dist/index.js\" (production)": 32852
 }