[SPARK-42276][BUILD][CONNECT] Add ServicesResourceTransformer rule to connect server module shade configuration

### What changes were proposed in this pull request?
This pr aims add `ServicesResourceTransformer` rule to connect server module shade configuration to make sure `grpc.ManagedChannelProvider` and `grpc.ServerProvider` can be used in server side.

### Why are the changes needed?
Keep `grpc.ManagedChannelProvider` and `grpc.ServerProvider` and other spi  usable after grpc being shaded, sbt doesn't need to be fixed because `sbt-assembly` does this by default.

### Does this PR introduce _any_ user-facing change?
No

### How was this patch tested?
- Pass Github Actions
- Manual test, build a spark client and do as follows:

```
bin/spark-shell --jars spark-connect_2.12-3.5.0-SNAPSHOT.jar --driver-class-path spark-connect_2.12-3.5.0-SNAPSHOT.jar --conf spark.plugins=org.apache.spark.sql.connect.SparkConnectPlugin --conf spark.connect.grpc.binding.port=15102
```

then run some code in spark-shell

Before

```scala
23/02/01 20:44:58 WARN NativeCodeLoader: Unable to load native-hadoop library for your platform... using builtin-java classes where applicable
Setting default log level to "WARN".
To adjust logging level use sc.setLogLevel(newLevel). For SparkR, use setLogLevel(newLevel).
Spark context Web UI available at http://localhost:4040
Spark context available as 'sc' (master = local[*], app id = local-1675255501816).
Spark session available as 'spark'.
Welcome to
      ____              __
     / __/__  ___ _____/ /__
    _\ \/ _ \/ _ `/ __/  '_/
   /___/ .__/\_,_/_/ /_/\_\   version 3.5.0-SNAPSHOT
      /_/

Using Scala version 2.12.17 (OpenJDK 64-Bit Server VM, Java 11.0.17)
Type in expressions to have them evaluated.
Type :help for more information.

scala> org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ServerProvider.provider
org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider$ProviderNotFoundException: No functional server found. Try adding a dependency on the grpc-netty or grpc-netty-shaded artifact
  at org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ServerProvider.provider(ServerProvider.java:44)
  ... 47 elided

scala> org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider.provider
org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider$ProviderNotFoundException: No functional channel service provider found. Try adding a dependency on the grpc-okhttp, grpc-netty, or grpc-netty-shaded artifact
  at org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider.provider(ManagedChannelProvider.java:45)
  ... 47 elided

```

After

```scala
23/02/01 21:00:13 WARN NativeCodeLoader: Unable to load native-hadoop library for your platform... using builtin-java classes where applicable
Setting default log level to "WARN".
To adjust logging level use sc.setLogLevel(newLevel). For SparkR, use setLogLevel(newLevel).
Spark context Web UI available at http://localhost:4040
Spark context available as 'sc' (master = local[*], app id = local-1675256417224).
Spark session available as 'spark'.
Welcome to
      ____              __
     / __/__  ___ _____/ /__
    _\ \/ _ \/ _ `/ __/  '_/
   /___/ .__/\_,_/_/ /_/\_\   version 3.5.0-SNAPSHOT
      /_/

Using Scala version 2.12.17 (OpenJDK 64-Bit Server VM, Java 11.0.17)
Type in expressions to have them evaluated.
Type :help for more information.

scala> org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider.provider
res0: org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ManagedChannelProvider = org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.netty.NettyChannelProvider68aa505b

scala> org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ServerProvider.provider
res2: org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.ServerProvider = org.sparkproject.connect.grpc.netty.NettyServerProvider4a5d8ae4

```

Closes #39848 from LuciferYang/SPARK-42276.

Lead-authored-by: yangjie01 <yangjie01@baidu.com>
Co-authored-by: YangJie <yangjie01@baidu.com>
Signed-off-by: Hyukjin Kwon <gurwls223@apache.org>

Author: LuciferYang

connector/connect/server/pom.xml

@@ -349,6 +349,9 @@
               <shadedPattern>${spark.shade.packageName}.connect.google_protos.type</shadedPattern>
             </relocation>
           </relocations>
+          <transformers>
+            <transformer implementation="org.apache.maven.plugins.shade.resource.ServicesResourceTransformer"/>
+          </transformers>
         </configuration>
       </plugin>
     </plugins>