feat: ✨ Parse data as message in parse_message_update instead of using _update

[Paillat-dev]

Summary

Superseeds: #2778 - no need to merge both.
Fixes #2777
Message update contains a full message object - no need to use that messy update logic. See:

• https://discord.com/developers/docs/events/gateway-events#message-update
• https://discord.com/channels/613425648685547541/697138785317814292/1273694894036353038

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